CHAPTER 7: LOVE VS SEX


Defining Love

Love can be; an intense feeling of deep affection, something one has a great interest and pleasure in, or just something one likes very much but still gets pleasure from. People can love:

Interesting Fact: According to Nature Education (nature.com), lovers heart beats synchronize when they maintain eye contact.
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The famous author of children’s books Dr. Seuss once described love as “You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”

Even William Shakespeare had love in his life, in his work a Midsummer Night’s Dream: “Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind, and therefore is winged Cupid painted blind.”

One thing about love is people are always getting it mixed up with sexual feelings or acts, and while love can make sex better the two are not the same.

Defining Sex in comparison to love

Sex is sexual activity, specifically including sexual intercourse. While sex can be an act of love, sex by itself is a separate group of hormones and emotions.

When one loves someone they may express it sexually, sensually (to arouse gratification of the senses —smell, touch, sight, etc— by giving them pleasure.) or in other ways that show love. A few of these ways are:

Interesting Fact: Kisses are taste tests for ones bodies to figure out if the person they are kissing is a strong genetic fit with their DNA. Losing attraction to some after a kiss is just one way a body says that person is not good genetically for oneself.
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Few people understand the differences between sex and love at first, but the ones who do, describe it as:

To summarize both love and sex can be an amazing feeling by themselves, but when one can have both sex and love, the two will enhance each other greatly, making them stronger for those involved.


Female Body Reactions

Love Reactions

Sexual Attraction Reactions

Interesting Fact: Females have a tendency to disaprove of pickup lines ("did you fall from heaven?", "Hey baby, whats your sign?", etc...) and prefer simple greetings like "hi", "hello", and more. Researchers have also noted that innocuous questions like "would you like to dance?" also have a higher success rate with females than pick up lines.
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During & After Sex Reactions

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Male Body Reactions

Love Reactions

Sex Responses

For males the sexual responses have been recorded into 4 phases: Excitement, Plateau, Orgasm, and After.

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Male & Female Similar Sex Responses

Besides each male and female having their own physical, chemical, and emotional reactions they also share a wide variety of reactions, the list below is just a few of them:

Interesting Fact: Our patterns of sexual attraction appear to change seasonally. For instance, heterosexual men report greater attraction to women’s bodies and breasts in the winter months than they do in the summer months.

Psychological Impacts of Sex

Sex impacts everyone differently, but good communication is key to having a good sex life, below is a short list of some of the ways sex affects people from a psychological sense.

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