CHAPTER 9: STAYING SAFE DURING SEX


Safe Sex

Safe sex is a way to combine the greatest pleasure while having the least amount of risk for contracting HIV and other sexually transmitted infections. Safe sex besides protecting a person can also help communication and trust between partners. There are two main groups to safe sex, the safest sex and regular safe sex:

The safest sex doesn’t involve penetration or the having genitals touch the partner, by doing this, STI’s have no access method from one person to another. A few methods for safest sex involve:

Interesting Fact: Many myths are out there about why some choose safe sex. A few of these are corrected here:
  • You can't tell by the way someone looks if they have an STD.
  • Practicing safe sex does not mean one of them already has an STD.
  • Practicing safe sex doesn't mean that one partner is a drug user.
  • Lesbians can get STDs.
  • Taking the pill doesn't mean one practices safe sex.
  • Buying condoms is not embarrassing.

On a daily basis many people choose safe sex and safest sex. The most used reasons are:

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Sexual Protection

For the regular safe sex there are many methods used to protect both partners from STI’s and pregnancies:

Male oriented Protections consist of:

Female oriented protections consist of:


Non-prescription Protection Use

A quick overview of how to use some non-prescription protections is listed below:


Male condom full example

Male Condom

  1. Check the expiration date and then open the package carefully from the top corner, inspecting the condom for any damage.
  2. Place the condom on the tip of the penis, pinching the condoms top balloon portion between your fingers (this bubble is used to provide extra space in the condom for when one ejaculates and needs to store the fluid in the condom without breaking).
  3. While still pinching, unroll the remainder of the condom down the shaft of the penis until either the condom cannot be unrolled anymore or the penis is fully covered.
  4. Let go of the tip of the condom.
  5. With some condoms a lubricant is not provided, if the condom feels dry or not as wet as one is comfortable with, a lubricant can be used with the condom.
Female condom

Female Condom

  1. Check the expiration date and then open the package carefully from the top corner, inspecting the condom for any damage.
  2. Relax and get into a comfortable position in preparation for placing the condom inside of the vagina.
    • The female condom already comes lubricated but many still add even more lubricant or even a physician approved spermicide.
  3. Squeeze together the sides of the inner ring at the closed end of the condom and then slide the inner ring into the vagina.
  4. Push the inner ring into the vagina as far as it will go or until the cervix being careful to make sure that it is not twisted.
  5. Leave the condoms outer ring hanging about 1 inch outside the vagina and during sex remember to guide one’s partner’s penis into the outer ring of the condom.
Bottle of spermicide

Spermicide

These are simplified instructions for spermicide for more details please read the instructions that come with your product.

  1. Check the expiration date and then open the cap of the spermicide.
  2. Place the tip inside of the vaginal opening and squeeze the bottle to release the amount of spermicide as directed on the instructions that came with it.
  3. Remove the bottle from the vagina.
Figures in bed thinking of withdrawing before ejaculation

Withdrawal

  1. Prior to ejaculation remove the penis completely from the vagina.
    • This method is only recommended for males who can clearly understand when they are about to ejaculate and can control themselves enough to leave the vagina at the correct moment.

Whether the protection being used is prescribed or non-prescription, they each have a timeframe for when they can be used and how often they can be used. Remember to always check the packaging and healthcare professionals for the time sensitive information and other related information for protection.

Where to Acquire Protection

At most grocery stores and gas stations in the US, a variety of non-prescriptions protections like condoms, spermicide, and lubricants are available for purchase.

One may schedule a doctor’s appointment with an approved physician to get a prescription protection.

In the event that one is unable to financially purchase protections, there are still a few options available. Wellness Centers and Planned Parenthood both offer cheaper prescription protections if not free based on the amount of income one has. These places also usually offer a non-prescription condoms for free for all who just come in.

Pure by choice ring

Abstinence

Abstinence is a valid way to protect oneself from STI’s and pregnancy. Abstinence is the practice of restraining oneself from indulging in something.

Many people choose abstinence and each have their own reasons for it, but a few of the most common reasons are:

Is abstinence right for you?